We all have them.
Those little saboteurs that sit on our shoulder and whisper into our ear. I’m sure you know what I mean.
It usually happens when you’ve got an idea to do something that is out of the norm – out of your comfort zone – like stretch yourself for a new position. Then suddenly, wham! There it appears… like a ghost from the dark of night. Invisible, but there all the same.
Suddenly, your idea that seemed so fabulous two seconds ago has suddenly taken on a dark, odd shape and you are suddenly convinced that no matter what, you are doomed to failure – never mind that your idea two seconds ago was so full of promise.
That little pesky guy sitting on your shoulder is whispering into your ear; telling you all these stories… most of them starting with ‘what if’ that then expand into 300-page novels that would put JK Rowling to shame! In fact, they are such wonderful ‘words’ of art that you start to believe everything the little guy is saying to you.
The truth is, the pesky guy sitting on your shoulder is scared. They’re wondering what’s going to happen if suddenly you have a new life. They like sitting on your shoulder exactly the way it is, so they don’t want you to change and they want to hold you back. They will go kicking and screaming to the bitter end until, finally, you give the pesky guy the flick once and for all.
Harbouring a safe haven for the pesky guy on your shoulder isn’t something unique. You are not alone. If you search for it, you will find that many people throughout history have also faced a pesky guy on their shoulder.
So how do you remove the pesky guy to unleash your hero within?
There are many facets to that question… each person is unique with differing talents, ambitions, and backgrounds. One answer does not fit all.
I have provided some tools I use with my clients in my coaching practice that you may find of benefit in discovering self-limiting beliefs.
Take time to reflect upon them, and be prepared to do some homework and partner with someone you trust to discuss what you find – in an objective, unbiased manner.
Great things do not happen within oneself by reflection alone. Great things do not happen alone.
When making changes and stepping out on a new journey, it is vital you have a cheering squad, an accountability partner, and a truth maker to assist you.
And remember to enjoy the journey.
“No one remains quite what he was when he recognises himself.” ~ Thomas Mann
Wishing you a fabulous journey! And let me know what you think of the tools and how they have assisted you – I would love to know!